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你我身边无形的“自杀暴力”知多少?提升情绪智商备战吧!

昨天在我大学心理学研讨会(Psychology Colloquium)完成了论文发表。
这是我第一次发表个人的学术研究。
当然少不了前一天爆表的紧张预备。
是那种精神力完全倾注在准备ppt、讲稿、练习到凌晨1点,连身边人走来走去谈话我都无法有时间和精力插入一角的地步。
可以说我尽力做最好。呵呵~
这天后,意味着我大学生涯的尾巴,要好好抓住了!

发表时少不了我一贯会紧张的一面,然而还是让在场的听众听得明白。真是感谢!呵呵~
忘不了我的开场白让主持人和听众都惊讶得瞪大眼睛。


我的论文题目是这样的。
Emotional Intelligence as a moderator of the relationship between psychological distress and life satisfaction among Malaysian Chinese undergraduates.
我的论文缘由来自于“自杀事件”。
是的,两年前,一位我认识却不太熟的朋友,他是曾经的音乐才子、领导者类型的大好年轻人、交际广阔、外向。然而2014年4月,他还是选择了这条不归路。
我和他不熟,但是我得知他的坏消息后,一周都没胃口。
以往在报纸常看到自杀事件的我,这是那么第一次受到冲击。
那年四月以后,陆陆续续有几个和他同校的学院生也步入后尘。
直到大学最后一年,我决定以这严重的社会现象开始我的研究旅程。
由于要做有关自杀的研究会触及敏感课题,所以监督老师奉劝我“转型”。所以才演变成现在的这论文主题。


根据多项学术研究,忧郁和焦虑尤其在15岁到29岁的年轻人当中已不再是冷门的话题。
而在马来西亚,华人的自杀率比其他种族还高。这可以归咎于华人的传统文化。读好书、保住家庭面子、要知恩回报、孝顺让多数年轻人只能硬着头皮学习,导致后来调适能力不支而倒下。
然而我相信,若拥有高的情绪智商,大马华裔大学生的忧虑会减低,对人生的满意度会提高。近年来西方和亚洲都有支持以上假设的研究。
然而目前鲜少有对华人的研究,更何况是马来西亚华人和中国、台湾、香港等的华人有着不同的文化背景。
所以我开始召集至少个100个生在马来西亚多元化国家的华人参与我的研究。
(将在八月完成结果分析)


即使这项研究还不算完成,然而所要带出的讯息只有一个。
自杀原因可以各式各样,然而都是想法中出了问题才会形成。
所以解决方案就是提升情绪智商,后果将会不一样。

我老师常教导我说:
人生的命运没有定下来,而是道路本身已经定下来”。

Malaysia news: When the ultraman tries to outrun a tsunami


This is a news that had once become an argumentative international topic in 2011. I have known this news when my cross-cultural psychology lecturer discussed about it during the class just now.

Although it is just a simple drawing, it brings a very important message and deserves our ponder.

In the class, the lecturer asked us to take a few minutes to write out our sentiments and comments as well as applying what we have learned during the class of the day.
So, at this moment, when you have first seen this sketch, what is the sentence in your brain?

After that, few students volunteered to share their thoughts.
One student talked about stereotype.
The concept of his thought is roughly like "we always label that an ultraman must be very powerful. However, he cannot ever bear the tsunami."

Indeed, how long do we bring our stereotypes to live our life and it hints the negative impacts?
To form a bigger image, how can negligence of cross-cultural issues form conflict?

When we talk about cross-cultural, there should be keywords like "stereotype" and "diversity" following behind.

辩论不是吵架,而是……

12月16-19日,参与了精英大学(HELP University)华文学会一年一度的大活动《精辩8》的工委(helper)。
认识到一群junior。虽然参与帮忙到一半(决赛落在12月22日),但依然有很多体验和新视野。也是第一次观看现场的辩论 (不好意思的说)。

全亚洲有华人的地方如台湾、上海、新加坡、香港等都来到参赛!甚是壮观。

第一天是政策题;
第二天是人生题;
第三天是爱情题。

这三天听到最频密的词就是“达成共识”,呵呵。
即使身为计时计分员,我的脑也随着这些参赛队伍不停地转。
意思是比赛过程的激烈和刺激 XD


尤其是看见这些各国年轻的中学生在当下的随机应变,真的确实看见人的想法就是那么神秘又美丽。
人的想法可以变得非常快速,它的潜能是你我都能随着锻炼和历练而释放出来的。

付出爱的滋味



在这学期拿了一个科目叫human services,所以会做服务社会的功课。
昨天,首次亲临这间位于KL Imbi区的Kechara Soup Kitchen。
跟负责人简单了解程序后就马上开始了。
我们四人就帮忙包裹饭菜、包装饼干、计算一箱箱的面包等。
看似简单的任务却需要一两个小时做同一件事的持久力。



眼见我们刚开始包裹,“常客”们就陆续排队来领食物了,我们不得不被训练得加快起来。

别做情绪的奴隶

过去两天被一个性格强势的同学针对。
感谢神让我看见以情绪来生活和对待人的可怕
若是在还没遇见我的人生导师——郑明析老师,我一定不罢休到底并且跟糟糕的人对抗到底,可能甚至诅咒那人。

所以我真的满心感谢我遇见了影响我一生的一位老师。是他的生活和精神如此改变了我的命运。
这两天这样被对待,我没有想跟那人计较这么多,我把这芝麻小事当成只是字面上的误会。体谅内心不完全的人,也了解世上70亿个人就有70亿个不同的想法,并且原谅组员把事夸大。

说心情不受到影响是假的。
所以我想起几个月前的“网络霸陵”新闻。
一个台湾女艺人因为在受不了人们网上的批评而日积月累内心的压力而自寻短见。
如此一般,肉体的痛苦都不及内心和精神的痛苦。所以在这精神“生病”的时代,很多人承受不了那像地狱般的痛苦所以挣扎地过着,逐渐枯萎。

有这么一句绝世名言:对人家血气就是杀人犯。即使不骂对方,只在内心对对方生闷气,其实自己的灵魂已过去把对方杀了一般残忍。

很夸张?一点都不。仔细思考这句名言,体会它真的是生命呐!

心要够强,靠自己最终会倒塌。唯有向了解自己的神、圣灵、圣子学习才会成为纵然风雨袭击依然坚定的人。

修造的过程真的很棒~咱们约定不做情绪的奴隶,好呗?

巧遇

今天不知是什么日子。
我把它定为"刚巧"。
今天,因为其中一个科系qualitative research功课的需要,我组访问了某个班上外国学生B.聊后确认他竟然住在我所住的地方附近,真是不可思议。因为我大学离我所住的地方搭公共交通需45车程。

听了他的故事,发现一人到异国升学是不容易的事。感谢神透过人给了一些启发。
然后,回到家附近时,走在路上。一个熟悉的人迎面而来。那样子好熟悉,让我们彼此走过对方就很自然地回望。对了,原来是失联7,8年的马来朋友啊!虽然记得我的脸但竟然忘了我的名。哈哈。没想到他住在附近。后会联络。我无法忘记那个擦肩而过,因为熟悉而再次回头看的那感觉。让我想起话语说过"等一下"在我们生活中会带来新风采或时机。

Psy meets her future

Today, on the way back home, sitting on the lrt, someone was talking to his friend, " Doing psychology can be a teacher or in the future."
What? Polis?
Funny though. I have never known this "stereotype" before XD
And the guy continued, "studying psychology is difficult."
Somehow, it is true XD
Anyway, I will go through.
Being in Year 2 and I actually have not sure which aspect shall I explore and go deeper.
Worrying....
Forgive me because I think I have got a disorder call anxiety.
At the moment, a phrase have come to my mind " If you forget your dream and hope ,you will die".
rephrase from Sunday Words by Joshua Jung.

Day 4&5&6 appreciation

Day 4
啊·~
我miss了星期天(140921)Day 4 感谢故事。
今天补上。

1. 感谢一早起来听到宝贵并期待的话语《特质与才干》。
2. 感谢我能因今天的功课而确实了解 现在的自己 最需要在 “主管环境”进步 来达成空提300.
3. 感谢祂透过yeeleng的梦告诉我非常重要的话。
这或许是好几年后的礼物,无论如何,会更多询问祂来确认方向的。
最宝贵的那句话 ”我无法照顾你,所以赐下XXX给你。”
啊~我好想亲自听到你说,在我梦里也好啊!我的魂体眼泪不止。。

Day5  (9/22)
1.感谢今天bonnie牧师引导的话语研究presentation,也成为第一个出去呈现的。
2.感谢我能因爱祂而生活充实。
3.感谢祂赐给我的主要特质-文字和唱歌。

Day 6 (9/23)
1.感谢今天很早起来祷告都不累。
2.感谢能在话语特攻队学习良多。
3.感谢今天考完psy205 midterm都不会像以前太在意。

Day 2 appreciation

9/19 Fri

1. Thanks God that I've received 2 precious letters which have gotten me encouraged and relieved. I can feel the Lord strongly.

2. I feel grateful that my precious time was not wasted much.
 It is because today whole afternoon LRT was facing technical problem and kept delaying moving forward .However, I didn't face long delay when I took the lrt to and back from Bangsar.

3. Thanks that I could have a short but hilarious lunch (delicious!) with my coursemates in the "jom makan" restaurant.

today, I'd like to tag my fellows studying in HELP -Carmen Chew,  Florence, Chiew Lian, Rima Chan, JR dee, Daniel lee jia sheng

A simple conversation

Today, in the library. 1pm.
I intended to do my last 2-hour revision for the PSY110 final quiz later. I used to be visitor here.

My right hand side, sitting a person, I didn't concern as usual.
Suddenly, "Are you using the scanner? "
"No, I don't know how to use it."
"Alright." He walked to my left hand side and use the scanner.
No longer, he said "Excuse me, I need to use your computer as I have to charge the USB."
" It takes few minutes only right? Fine..." I left my chair and sat to the chair next to me.
....
....
" I am Joel ( If I didn't listen wrongly). How about you?" He presented a smile and gave his right hand to me.
" Ohh, hi. I am Jeslyn."
The conversation continued.
.....
After finishing his paper scanning,
"Bye. See you." "See you."

A second year Business undergraduate from KK who has never climbed up the popular KK mountain. 

If it is His will, hope this life would be able to meet the Providence History.
Though it might be just an once-time encounter. 

A conversation starts with a warm smile would break the barrier between two individuals.
And how long I have not done this way?

By the way, how I hope the person I encounter today is the One who teaches me the truth EVERYDAY.
Just appear in front of me, physically.

Grateful and my simple today was delighted.

2nd semester summary

Finally, my 1st year second semester came to the end.
After having last final paper on 29 April, I have started my holidays for nearly 1 month.
To be frank, this past second semester had really made me breathless.
Luckily, my Lord's spirit has driven me to face and complete all the challenges.
Looking back, there were many assignments I have completed which were making me breathless.

MPU community service
-proposal paper, progress report, final report,fundraising

Intro to Psychology 2
-case study(Gandhi's independent&interdependent self), critical thinking essay questions

Psychology for Personal Development
-argumentative essay,literature review

Quantitative Methods
-lab report,assessment(ERB interview)

and there were a few ACEs which are quiz that have to pass by get-all-correct.
Yea, I passed all :)


I hope to have a productive holidays.
Because of Him, we came to this place yesterday on 1 May.
Glory Beach Resort ,Port Dickson is a place full with love , so there gather all of us.
9 September 2001, what's a meaningful day!
The coconut tree You lied on that time, becomes much taller after 10 more years. 
I will not stop to write more memories and experiences with you ^^
On the same day, I had the chance to know China sister, which has been studying in Singapore.
Because of You,we all get united.

Thanks God I have met this New History~
I desperately to get more people to know about you as far as I can.

Just have a good start for May holidays.
to be continued.
There should be a satisfactory holidays.
Yeah!

除夕的课:真“惜”&真“爱”

 昨晚 爸妈到seremban载我和三姐。车上,爹地突然提议:明天一早我们去jogging吧!
哇,那一刻,我很开心很惊讶(你或许觉得很奇怪)。其实,我一向来都想和爹地去jogging但都没机会,如今,新年除夕的清晨做到了,真是非凡的意义。一路上经过很多藤树,爹地跟我说他小时候很会用藤做鸟笼。跟爸爸就象探索了一趟大自然之旅一般。

我很喜欢这张照片。有我爸爸厚实的背,那为我辛苦了一辈子的手,任由祂闪亮的阳光照射在我爸身上。总有一天,那一天,和祂一起约定的,一定会达成!
接着,我们到古早味“何香茶餐室”吃早餐。top 1 teh tarik 就在这里,听说连在KL的“分行”拿本店专利都没做得如此好喝。今天也从三姐那里了解到品尝teh tarik的小知识,呵呵~
太好吃的早餐了!是很简单的早餐,但因为有幸福的味道而变得不同。

晚上,阅读到一个同龄表姐的blog,才知她终于早有爱人了,只是没公开。
故事好戏剧性。她如此公开远距离男友给她信的内容是为了提醒人活着真的要珍惜身边一切。那封信是她男友还清醒时写给她的很长很长的信。
信的尾端是一堆朋友的comments。
几乎每个都给类似的留言:祷告吧!祂会保守你和你爱的他。

back to campus

八个月的工作阶段后,
在月明洞回来的8月21日,我终于回到校园生活了。终于来到HELP大学学习我梦寐以求的领域——心理学。
今天带着一点紧张、期待。不断心想:要迅速适应这新环境。

这可能是我人生中唯一的三年大学生涯。

第一天,
Dr Goh 在前面对新生们说:
“现在你们是新一批的大学生,但我看的是四、五年后的你。”
我不知道前面的新生们是否有听进去,但我因这句话开始定下我3年内的方针了。
接着,Dr Goh说:大学就像buffet,各式各样的活动、课程就是各式各样的宝,等着你去挖而已。
第一天,
也让我看到这大学的心理学系生都充满潜能。就读这科系的,思想都特别和追求智慧,我是如此认为的。因为这个时代,大多数人都涌向热门科系——医学、会计、教师、律师等。但我就是看到心理学领域的明亮前景。
单位也安排心理测试并把我们新生归成四大类。我是openness group。一张张麻将纸般大的画随着四个组别显出了各自突出的个性。想说:大家都是天生艺术家啊!
可惜我没机会把那四幅“大作品”拍下来。呵呵~

第二天,
seniors们出场并带领的一天。PSG & student council的学长学姐带领我们进行过站游戏。顿时,每一个组别里,大家很快融入也拉近了距离,过后还一起去吃午餐。
很感谢一切,和主一起面对、感受。
似乎对将要开始的大学生涯感到有一点压力(奇怪,我就是这么“未雨绸缪”的人,呵呵),但我会积极以话语为中心坚立起来的!:)

orientation开始了两天,
我对自己已定下期许:
~以着话语为明确方向,尽情享受这三年大学buffet、善用时间不断挖宝
~每天带着我人生老师的精神,挑战上等层次的生活,不容许普普通通和不了解就实践的随便。

今天起,我是大学生了!